Guidelines for Practice
We offer these guidelines as gentle reminders of what we have seen to be most helpful in our work, with guidance from our own mentors and teachers. They are not intended to be definitive or prescriptive, but rather to direct you back towards the source of your own wisdom and wellbeing.
As wellbeing practitioners we know that the hidden variable that allows us to embody these guidelines with ease, is our own understanding of the nature of human experience and who we are in essence. We are committed to continuing our learning and deepening our understanding of how the universal principles of Mind, Thought and Consciousness create all of our experience from the inside out.
1) See your own wellbeing
It is through the recognition and experience of our own innate wellbeing and resilience that we are able to see the same in others. The capacity to be helpful is in direct proportion to the psychological health of the helper.
2) See the wellbeing in others
Through recognising and evoking the wellbeing in others, we remind people of what they already know but may have lost sight of - that they are already whole and complete and have everything they need. By seeing beyond any labels, problems or deficiencies we direct clients towards what is right with them and away from what appears to be broken, wrong, or in need of fixing.
3) Recognise that insight is the sole agent of change
Everyone has the capacity for fresh thought, and it is only what a person realises through their own insight that will be helpful to them in a sustainable way. Remembering this relieves us from the burden of having to be the expert, giving advice or having the answers. We help others to recognize the value and impact of their own insight upon their experience.
4) Connect as human beings
We offer an open heart, look to connect and build rapport, knowing that we are already connected. We seek to understand and appreciate another’s experience, recognising our shared humanity. We aim to create a relaxed and settled atmosphere – much like a conversation between friends.
5) Offer presence
We create a space that is conducive for insight by being present and comfortable in a place of not-knowing and not needing to know. We learn to recognise when our own personal agenda, investment in the outcome or inner judgement distracts us from being present, and allow ourselves to settle back into presence as and when necessary.
We learn to listen for our client’s wisdom and wellbeing, which may be less visible to them initially. We listen for misunderstanding about where experience comes from so we can help our clients gain perspective. We listen to our own wisdom and trust what comes to us in the moment.
7) Explore with neutral curiosity
From a place of neutrality, non-judgement and acceptance of what is, we allow our natural curiosity to guide the conversation and allow questions to arise that facilitate insightful understanding.
8) Share what you know
When we share what we have come to realise through our own insight, we are on solid ground. It is not so much what we share, but the place within ourselves that we share it from that carries a resonance of truth and has a helpful impact on others.
9) Have humility
As ongoing students, we recognize that our understanding and knowledge is limited and there is always more to be seen. As we experience our clients accessing and acting upon their own wisdom, we are reminded that we are all equal in terms of our capacity for insight and access to wellbeing.
Created by Ian Watson and Elizabeth Lovius - Founders The Wisdom and Wellbeing Consultancy